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Live well. Lead well. Be well. In that order.

I’m Earl Cabellon. I coach people leaders who carry a lot, the ones everyone else leans on, and help them get unstuck, stay grounded in what actually matters, and lead without emptying themselves to do it.

CPCC · Co-Active Training Institute / ACC · International Coaching Federation / Gallup-Certified CliftonStrengths Coach / iEQ9 Enneagram Practitioner / 20+ Years Leading in Higher Education

THE FRAMEWORK

The order is the point.

01 · Live Well

Your values, your rest, your family, your faith. The ground you stand on, not the reward you earn after the work is done. When the foundation is thin, everything built on it is thinner than it looks.

02 · Lead Well

How you lead is downstream of how you live. Rested and grounded, you lead with patience and courage. Empty, you lead from fear and start managing optics instead of people.

03 · Be Well

Wellbeing that lasts, for you and for everyone watching you. Leaders decide, in a hundred small ways, whether their people are allowed to be well or have to apologize for needing it.

Get the order wrong, and the whole thing collapses. I know because I lived it backwards for years.

WHY I DO THIS

I used to be skeptical of coaching.

I’m a husband, a father, and the son of parents who immigrated from the Philippines with a work ethic that didn’t leave much room for reflection.

For two decades in higher education, I believed good leaders had the answers, stayed available, and ran on empty as proof of commitment. Then a season of leading through the pandemic taught me what that actually costs.

Now I coach the leader I used to be.

My story

Essays

Essays
Coaching Is Not Fixing People

For a long time, I thought my job as a leader was to have the answer.

Someone would come into my office with a problem, and I would listen just long enough to figure out where they were stuck, and then I would offer the way through. Sometimes I framed it as advice. Sometimes I framed it as a question that already had the answer baked inside. Either way, the move was the same. Hear the problem. Solve the problem. Send them on their way.

I told myself this was helpful. I told myself this was what good supervisors did. I told myself I was saving people time.

What Re-Entry Taught Me About Leadership

There is a hospital hallway I will never forget.

The floors were polished to a soft shine. The lights hummed. Somewhere, a monitor beeped on a rhythm I started to memorize without meaning to. I walked that hallway over and over in the weeks I was caring for my family member, and every time my feet hit the floor, I was carrying two questions at once.

One honest essay, when it’s ready.

No hacks, no funnels, no five-step frameworks. I write about leading, living, and staying whole while you do both. New essays land in your inbox first.

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